Many people have completely the wrong idea when you mention kinky sex to them. They wrongfully assume that kinky sex life is all about beating each other with canes and whips and chaining each other up. There is a certain element of truth to these things but getting kinky is all about making some much-needed changes to your current sex life to make it a lot more exciting and a lot hotter. Everyone experiences a lull in their sexual relationship and over time, we tend to get used to each other and so a lot of the excitement has gone and many wish for those good times to come back once again.
This is why many people think of kinky sex activities like bondage and many are reluctant to talk about such things. Communication is essential if any sexual relationship is to be successful and although you may think that your partner may react in a negative way, many find that the opposite actually occurs. If you would like to try some kinky sex activities and particularly bondage then try to bring it up over dinner or another appropriate time. In order to get both of you in the mood for some kinky sex, it might be a good idea to watch some porn that illustrates such things so that you can pick up ideas and get yourself in the mood. The following are just some of the things that you can try to enhance your current sex life.
- Maybe tie each other up – This is when your local sex store can come to your rescue because you can buy such things as kinky handcuffs so that you can tie your partner up a little and do some role-play in your bondage games. Many people find it quite exciting to be restrained in some way but always remember to have a safe word when taking part in such things and always ask permission before you move on to something else.
- Some spanking may be called for – Every individual is different and while some like to be spanked hard, there are others who just wanted to titillate them a little. Always start softly and if your partner encourages you to go a little harder then you can. The encouragement may come in the form of words or you may get approval due to the moments of ecstasy coming from your partner.
- Delaying the orgasm – Clearly, when you are in a healthy sexual relationship, you want to reach orgasm and you want to climax but it’s always a good idea to try to delay this and even tell your partner that they can’t orgasm until you tell them that they can. This makes everything very intense and enjoyable and many couples say that this provides them with the best possible climax.
It doesn’t hurt to take part in some kinky sex play in any healthy sexual relationship and although it will hurt just a little, it is incredibly erotic and it makes having sex so much more fun.
